As a teacher, I’ve said it: That apple didn’t fall far from the tree, did it?
The reality is that the same is true for me and my children. It never ceases to amaze me that my children, while completely opposite of each other in a gazillion different ways, both represent some of the best (and the worst) characteristics I see in myself. (They also exhibit some of the best/worst of my former husband, but that’s another post for another day).
Five ways Thing One is just like me:
- He’s passionate about justice. Turning one’s head to injustices against others is not an option for either one of us.
- He’s a strategist. (That’s a polite name for a manipulator) — I don’t use that skill for my own gain anymore, but when I was his age, I was a master at it.
- He does not conform just to conform. If he needs to be weird in order to stand true to one of his values, he will. In fact, he must.
- He is impatient. I keep working on it, but I still am. Things move too slowly for me. Things don’t fall in line when I want. Then I get frustrated. I see him struggle with the same.
- He loves spicy food. Give us both the jalapeños, the sriracha, the chiles. The hotter the better, baby!
Five ways Thing Two is just like me (although he’s totally different from his brother):
- He feels things deeply. His heart is tender.
- He hates to disappoint. It’s probably the worst feeling in the world to know he’s disappointed someone. I know that feeling.
- He has a ready smile. And he chooses to use it. Often.
- He’s book smart. Sometimes we both fail the common sense tests, but give us an algebraic equation and we’ve got it covered.
- He has a wicked sense of humor. He finds nuggets of humor in the mundane. It’s often sarcastic. Wonder where he gets that?
It fascinates me that each child as an individual has his own personality, melded from my own, plus a dash of my ex, and some of their extended relatives as well. They are truly a complex conglomeration of their families, genetically, but also environmentally.
And they continue to grow into their own versions of themselves.
Can’t wait to meet them as adults.