This weekend, I went on a third date with a very nice guy.
It was my last ditch attempt to find a spark with him.
He is, after all, one of the nicest guys I have ever met. He’s a gentleman. He’s funny. He’s chivalrous but never sexist. And I like him as a person. I just can’t quite get to the point where I think we could have a romantic connection.
And there’s a part of me that wants to say, “Get OVER it. Romantic love is a myth. Maybe you should settle for whatever you can get.”
But I’ve felt infatuation before. It’s magical. It’s amazing.
I want to feel it again.
I want to hope for his call.
I want to be giddy when he texts.
I want to look forward to spending time together.
Instead, I can go days or weeks without contact with Mr. Nice Guy and not even notice.
I can spend time with him and enjoy it, but I can easily walk away.
I want to FEEL it. Not just settle for someone who seems to really like me.
And if that means I will continue the single life, then so be it.
I’m happy.
I’m willing to wait for the one who makes my heart sing AND is also a nice guy.
He is out there.
Somewhere.
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I don’t blame you one bit. Hold out for the one who makes you feel warm, giddy and special. Not one who you could do without and not care one way or the other.
Teri
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Thank you! That’s what my heart says too!
Your quote says it all. There’s nothing wrong with having a friend. You will find that friend who also makes your heart flutter.
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I’m going to keep searching. No question.
I will have a post soon on chemistry, having a few dates to see if something develops, and when to pull the plug. We are in the same spot right now with thoughts on wanting more. I won’t settle and neither should you. Give him a chance to find a woman who really gets excited for his text messages by letting him go. You also free up your time for find that in a guy for you!
I am just still so happy the armor loosened and you are out there dating.
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So glad I have a friend walking the same path..and blogging about it! I can’t wait to see what you share
I totally get what you’re saying and I don’t blame you! I’m proud of you for going out again and not giving up though!
That guy is out there… I’m sure of it!
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Thanks, Jackie! I’m out and about and having a good time. And what I want is to find a SPECIAL someone. He’s out there
Definitely hold out. Although I’m off the market now, sorry
I truly honestly believe there is The One out there for everybody. I’m pretty sure I found mine, finally, thank God. I don’t think we’re all required to go through the bad ones, or even the maybes, like Mr. Nice Guy here, but some (many) of us do before finding her, or him.
Don’t ever give up on romantic love, please? Too many people already have. We need it to survive!
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Thank you for weighing in on this as a man who has recently been in the dating pool (delighted to hear, though, that you’re off the market!)
I won’t give up on romantic love. I’m happy as an individual and would love to find someone to complement my life…to make my heart sing. He’s out there. I just haven’t met him yet.
You’re not alone! I totally get what you’re saying and feeling. I know he is out there for you and I, hopefully not the same man… but the “one” is out there. In the meantime, do what you’re doing… living life, being happy with yourself. That is what I am doing!
Yes…living life, being happy with myself. No sense pining away, right?