Eighteen years ago, I walked down the aisle.
Eight years ago, two days shy of my 10th wedding anniversary, I walked down a different aisle. The aisle at divorce court.
The big question is…do I regret it?
And the answer to both is no.
While, at times, it’s been easy to say, “If only I hadn’t married him…” as if in not marrying him, I would have avoided all kinds of trouble and strife. (Which, to be fair, is probably true).
It’s incredibly more difficult to acknowledge this: ”If I hadn’t married him, I wouldn’t have the Things.”
That’s a life I cannot imagine.
So, if I had to choose, I’d live every single moment of my life in the exact same way as I have in order to have the exact same children who sleep under my roof every night. The same ones who drive me crazy with their dirty socks, their peanut butter knives, and their almost constant bickering.
Yes. I’d do it all again.
Do I regret my divorce?
Not a chance. No explanation required.
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There is peace when the right choice is made…even when they’re at opposite ends.
Well said, mama.
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Thanks, Alexandra. I debated about posting this one, because it feels deeply personal, but decided that I cannot be the only woman to feel this way, and it would be good to share. So glad you stopped by
My divorced finalized 6 months after my 10th anniversary. I am asked often if I regret getting married, and like you, all I have to do is think of my son and the answer is most definitely no. Focusing on that, knowing that something good did come out of the marriage, allows me to keep from wallowing in what could have been.
I still wallow. I can’t lie. My marriage was that bad. But, knowing the boys came from that helps me believe that the marriage (as awful as it was) had a purpose in my life — I learned from it, and they came from it, so it has some inherent value.
It’s great to live your life without regrets. What a wonderful outlook!
Stopping by from SITS.
I’m still struggling with regrets. But am trying to have the mature attitude of “it’s the past–let it go.”
You are amazing. That is all. You are amazing!!! -LV
MWAH
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I get it…I feel the same way. I wouldn’t be where I am now without some things happening.
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